Okay other moms, ideas for positive reinforcement with your little ones? I'll prep you right off the bat -- I'm not one for bribes/rewarding with treats. Just looking for ways to focus on the positive and praise my son for the good things instead of saying "no" so much or resorting to "time out" too often (which I didn't think I did, but after tonight, I'm reevaluating...).
My Other Goal ...
Is to work on positive reinforcement with Eliot. I had a "guilty mommy" moment tonight when my extra-tired Eliot (he's been sick, poor thing) wanted to go to bed so badly that he kept pointing to his bed and asking for ... "time out" (we put him in his crib for time out). Sad. :(
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Oh Monica, your little boy is so sweet. I guess I don't have a lot of advice but your post made me think of what my mom always tells me. Just to look for the good. I always try to make sure I praise my kids and sometimes, on hard days it is for very small trivial things. I just know if I didn't all they would hear all day is "don't". You are such a good mom. Maybe just switch his time out place. I remember we did the crib with Kimball and then switched to a play pen we didn't use very much and now it's a kitchen chair we turn to face the wall. Oh, raising kids is so hard! Good luck!
Monica, I feel every mom comes across this point several times in their lives. Something I ATTEMPT to do is have a praise ration of 4:1, meaning 4 praise for every 1 correction statement. This is what we teach the teachers here at Provo School Dist. When I first tried, I thought I would be way above it, but lo and behold, not as close as I thought. When I really focus on it, the feel in our home is much better. BYU is now encouraging their student teachers to have an 8:1 ratio!!!! For time out in our house it is on the stairs. Good luck and hope all is well
The best book I have read is "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood." It's AMAZING and changed my outlook on how to be a parent. :)
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